Why Vulnerability Feels Hard

One of the toughest things in the world – especially for women who have had to learn to be strong – is being vulnerable.  When you’ve spent your life building up walls just to protect yourself, we fight with every nerve not to take those defenses down!  But being vulnerable can also be a gift. It’s real. It’s in the …

The Best and Worst Week of My Life

THIS episode right here is the reason you shouldn’t compare yourself to others.  So much of what I do at The Queen of Confidence centers around sharing the stories of confidence, the epic wins and helping other women feel empowered to do the same.  Who doesn’t want to shout it from the rooftops when things are going right for us?!  …

Single Ladies Series – Are You Better Off Alone?

When it comes to relationships, we all think we know what we want. Somebody kind, thoughtful, funny, good-looking, or (insert your adjective of choice here!).  But it’s rarely that simple. We spend a lot of time thinking about our ideal partner – but usually not enough time thinking about ourselves.  So when I talk to women who are struggling with …

What 5 Days Off the Grid Taught Me

Sometimes, in order to reconnect, we have to disconnect.  For someone like me, who loves being on and available and ready to go 24/7, I struggled with the idea of taking some time to recharge all the way up to getting on the plane. Five days at a spa?! Without my husband or kids?! (Or phone?!) It seemed crazy.  But …

Playing Big in Your Biz with Jazze Jervis

Ladies, if you’ve ever been curious about being in aligmement when starting your own coaching business, today’s episode is for YOU!  Today I talk to Jazze Jervis, who mentors women to six and seven figure success through strategy, mindset, energetics.  The core of her work is mentoring the whole woman, with an emphasis on self exploration and connection back to …

Buying My First Home

As a little girl growing up in a rough neighborhood, who was in and out of foster care, who depended on food stamps, I never expected that one day I’d be able to buy a house.  I was letting my past hold me back. “I’m too poor,” even though I wasn’t anymore. “I’m too Puerto Rican. I’m too whatever.” These …

How to Deal with HUGE Changes and Transitions

Ever heard the saying that change is the only constant in life?  It’s true. Our lives are never the same day to day. Some days those changes are amazing – new job! New partner! New house! New baby!  But other days, those same changes can feel scary: New responsibilities. New bills. New commitments. New vulnerabilities.  So what can we do …

The #1 Way to Change Your Life (IGTV)

The process of becoming is all about choices.  When women say, “Damn, Erika, how did you get that career/house/husband?!”  Here’s what I say, “I had to choose this for myself”.  And they were hard choices. I have had my share of trauma in my life. Abuse, loss, grief. It would have been so much easier to numb out every night …

Becoming Magnetic

You know when you’re feeling hot, nails fresh, wearing your favorite clothes and just owning your stuff?  People seem to gravitate to you. They smile at you, compliment you,  it feels like all’s right with the world as things fall into place with ease…. You just feel good! It’s not about how you look – it’s about the vibe you’re …

Creating a Cult-Like Following on Social Media

We can all pretty much agree: cults are bad.  But if there’s one aspect we can steal from them (and improve on – no Kool-Aid here!), it’s the idea of creating a community – a close-knit group of likeminded people who are united under a common cause or goal.  So what does that look like in our own lives, or …

Healing the Inner Child

Do you ever feel like your past is creating your future?  Maybe the early loss of a loved one keeps you from getting close to people today. Maybe sexual trauma in your childhood prevents you from being intimate with your significant other. Maybe domestic abuse in a previous relationship makes you hesitant to fall in love again.  Often, that’s your …

Biz Series: Why Niching Matters (IGTV)

Ladies, we all want to leave a legacy. But for most of us, that’s a huge challenge – the world already feels full, and the Internet is already packed with noise. It can feel like we’re all competing over the same tiny piece of pie, especially as coaches. That’s why I made this episode – because this is what niching …

Reframing Victim Mentality

We all do it: “He cheated on me!” “She stole my man!” “My mom lied to me!” “He manipulated me!” When we’re hurt, especially by people we love and trust, it’s easy to dwell on our pain and fall into a victim mindset. But when we do that, we get stuck – and we only hurt ourselves more. So how …

I can’t afford it…

BUCKLE UP QUEEN! This episode is one of the MOST important episodes I have ever recorded. The topic of affordability. So many of us say “I can’t afford it…”  And if you ask me it is the most detrimental statement a person who is wanting to  work on themselves can say. If you are READY to stop allowing the “I …

Sistahood Invite: How to REALLY change your life (IGTV)

Queen! Today I am sharing a snippet of a recent IGTV I did on Instagram. I shared about the importance of showing up for yourself when you are in the UP-LEVEL of your life. Consider this an invitation for you to step into your next level! There is #1 thing, 1, that you need to master if you TRULY want …

Are you doing the things that make YOU feel good?

How are you feeling right now? Today’s episode is a reminder, and invitation to do what makes YOU feel good. Here’s what I know, anytime I feel stressed, overwhelmed, resentful or exhausted – I know that I have stopped doing things for myself that make me feel good. For me recently I have discovered how much I missed Yoga, maybe …

Meet my mom

This is a really special episode because my guest today is my Mom, Margarita Ortiz!  She is going to be sharing her story with us.  She’s been a single mother who has struggled her whole life with bi- polar disorder and she has done a lot of work on herself and has completely transformed her life. My Mom and I …

How to build TRUST in your Romantic Relationships

How to build TRUST in your Romantic Relationships

Relationships are such a massive topic, one I have done quite a few episodes on. This episode in particular was a listener request. I recently asked my Instagram audience to tell me what they wanted to hear on the podcast and I got this question a few times. Shout out to Mel who asked me “How did you learn to trust your husband …

How I made $500K+ on Instagram

In 2018, my husband Hamish and I were broke. Some weeks we couldn’t afford the basics, let alone little luxuries. I even found myself scrounging around the backseat of my car, trying to get enough change to buy a loaf of bread. It was in the shower one afternoon when I had an epiphany – it was the ‘aha’ moment …

BIZ SERIES: What it’s like in the Start Up Squad (Q&A)

The number one thing women looking to grow their coaching businesses want to know from me is how did I do it? So to answer this question I created my program: The Start Up Squad. It’s a year long business coaching program designed to help take you and your coaching business to the next level and start making consistent income …